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EMPLOYMENT BOUNDARIES AND KNOWING YOUR VALUE

September 4, 2015

Do you believe that money can buy you happiness? To a certain extent I believe that it does. Money certainly makes things easier. I would be more than willing to endure some unpleasant positions to make more money for my family. If someone told me that I could make 3 million dollars by shoveling out manure pits for the next three years, I would definitely do it. Most people probably would.

What if the same person offered you only $30,000 to shovel manure for the next three years? Unless you were homeless, unemployed, and starving the answer would most likely be a resounding NO. That level of physical discomfort just isn’t worth the meager paycheck. Everyone has their employment boundaries. They know when a project is worth the value or not for their time and effort involved.

This past week I learned what limits are and employment boundaries are as a writer. I did something that, three months ago, seemed inconceivable. I turned down a writing client for the first time.

After learning how to get paid to write for blogs, I have been hustling to find new clients, start new projects, and bring in more income for my family so that we can pay off debt. I’m willing to put in the time and the hours writing for free, doing guest posts, or getting paid low compensation to build up my name, my business, and my writing portfolio. Like Mark Twain is remembered for saying, “Write without pay until somebody offers pay.”

Until this week, my motto has been “any money for writing is good money for writing.” After contacting a potential client and writing a sample article, I was seriously low-balled in return for a writing project. I don’t want to get into the details, but let me just say that the time was not going to be worth the effort or the money. Compensation was going to be less than minimum wage. Significantly less. I turned down the client, letting them know that my time is worth more than they were offering, but thanks for the opportunity.

A project like the one in question would have made me crazy, the quality of my work would have been terrible, and my family would have suffered with me working so much…all for pennies. Although I am still a new writer, I know what my value is, and I know what my employment boundaries are.

I am so glad that I was able to say no. I love working from home as a contract writer, because I get to choose which projects I take on, meaning I enjoy my work and I get to be home with my kids.

I enjoy my work as a writer, and I enjoy my work as a mom. Any job that would make me unhappy with both of those positions is a job I have no desire or willingness to take. I know what my goals are as a writer, I know what my employment boundaries are, and I will only take on projects that will help me reach those goals.

What are your employment boundaries? Do you know what your bottom line amount is for the value of your work?

Before you go, here’s a roundup of some of my recent posts around the web:

Careers that Offer Student Loan Forgiveness

3 Fool-Proof Ways to Avoid Buyer’s Remorse While Shopping Online

10 Great Alternative Christmas Gift Ideas

3 Reasons Millennials Should Invest in Dividend Stocks

5 Reasons You Shouldn’t Put Off Your Bucket List until Retirement

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Blog and Life Updates, Motherhood

REASONS I LOVE RAISING A TYPE A KID

August 21, 2015

Our daughter will be 5 years old soon, and she already has the stubbornness of myself and the single-mindedness of her dad. When she gets it in her head that she wants something or wants to do something, good luck trying to dissuade her otherwise. She can be competitive, ambitious, impatient, aggressive, and fast talking. In short, she has all of the attributes of a type A personality.

My husband is also Type A, and our daughter is basically his mini-me. She not only looks like him, but she acts like him too. So between the two of them, there are quite a few power struggles in our house. I have to laugh, because many of the things that frustrate my husband when dealing with our 4 year old are really just miniature versions of himself.

Sometimes I would love to have her be less competitive, less ambitious, more patient, less-aggressive, and a little bit quieter. I honestly wouldn’t change her for the world, though. As much as it can be a pain to have a strong-willed child, there are several reasons why I love raising a type A kid.

I love that she knows her own mind

As frustrating as it can be at times, my daughter knows her own mind and won’t easily back down from an idea. She embraces those type A qualities for creative projects, play, and learning. When she comes up with an idea for a project, she is impatient to get started and she won’t stop until she’s finished. She is ambitious with her goals, and she thrives off of learning to do new things.

I have learned to just embrace her miniature type A tendencies and try to go with the flow when she comes up with an idea. Raising a type A kid means you have to pick your battles.

I love that she is hard-wired for success

Research from Truity Psychometrics shows, “that people with high scores on the personality dimension of Conscientiousness tend to earn more and be more successful in their careers. Conscientiousness is defined as a person’s tendency to persist towards a goal; Conscientious people tend to be organized, structured, and responsible.” Of course not all successful people are type A, and not all type A people are successful, but the character traits typical to type A personalities do tend to lend a hand in success.

Those attributes typical of a type A individual will help her to grow into the most successful adult she can be. I want my daughter to hold tight to her conscientiousness; it’s every bit as natural to her as her beautiful brown eyes.

She has made me a better parent

We are trying our hardest to raise our children to be gracious members of society, and we don’t tolerate it when our children are ill-mannered, rude, or disrespectful. Trying to find that perfect balance between encouraging her natural drive and ambition, and not letting her become a little tyrant, can be a struggle.

As much as I want my daughter to know her own mind, my husband and I are struggling to set boundaries on the behavior she exhibits towards others. She can be ambitious, but she can’t trample others to get what she wants. She can be a fast-talker, but she needs to learn to listen. She can be competitive, but she needs to be a good sport if she loses.

She has made me a better person

I am not a type A individual, but being married to one and raising another has really helped me become more flexible. Raising our daughter to be a kind, patient, and considerate type A person takes a lot of kindness, patience, and consideration. I have to emulate what I want our daughter to be in this world. If I want her to listen to others and their ideas, I need to listen to her and show respect for her ideas. If I want her to be a good sport when losing, I need to be gracious when she wins. In short, to raise a good person, you have to be a good person.

I love how raising her has changed me as an individual, and I feel so blessed to have my smart, witty, stubborn, creative, and independent daughter.

Are you a type A individual? How has raising your kids changed you as an individual?