Our daughter will be 5 years old soon, and she already has the stubbornness of myself and the single-mindedness of her dad. When she gets it in her head that she wants something or wants to do something, good luck trying to dissuade her otherwise. She can be competitive, ambitious, impatient, aggressive, and fast talking. In short, she has all of the attributes of a type A personality.
My husband is also Type A, and our daughter is basically his mini-me. She not only looks like him, but she acts like him too. So between the two of them, there are quite a few power struggles in our house. I have to laugh, because many of the things that frustrate my husband when dealing with our 4 year old are really just miniature versions of himself.
Sometimes I would love to have her be less competitive, less ambitious, more patient, less-aggressive, and a little bit quieter. I honestly wouldn’t change her for the world, though. As much as it can be a pain to have a strong-willed child, there are several reasons why I love raising a type A kid.
I love that she knows her own mind
As frustrating as it can be at times, my daughter knows her own mind and won’t easily back down from an idea. She embraces those type A qualities for creative projects, play, and learning. When she comes up with an idea for a project, she is impatient to get started and she won’t stop until she’s finished. She is ambitious with her goals, and she thrives off of learning to do new things.
I have learned to just embrace her miniature type A tendencies and try to go with the flow when she comes up with an idea. Raising a type A kid means you have to pick your battles.
I love that she is hard-wired for success
Research from Truity Psychometrics shows, “that people with high scores on the personality dimension of Conscientiousness tend to earn more and be more successful in their careers. Conscientiousness is defined as a person’s tendency to persist towards a goal; Conscientious people tend to be organized, structured, and responsible.” Of course not all successful people are type A, and not all type A people are successful, but the character traits typical to type A personalities do tend to lend a hand in success.
Those attributes typical of a type A individual will help her to grow into the most successful adult she can be. I want my daughter to hold tight to her conscientiousness; it’s every bit as natural to her as her beautiful brown eyes.
She has made me a better parent
We are trying our hardest to raise our children to be gracious members of society, and we don’t tolerate it when our children are ill-mannered, rude, or disrespectful. Trying to find that perfect balance between encouraging her natural drive and ambition, and not letting her become a little tyrant, can be a struggle.
As much as I want my daughter to know her own mind, my husband and I are struggling to set boundaries on the behavior she exhibits towards others. She can be ambitious, but she can’t trample others to get what she wants. She can be a fast-talker, but she needs to learn to listen. She can be competitive, but she needs to be a good sport if she loses.
She has made me a better person
I am not a type A individual, but being married to one and raising another has really helped me become more flexible. Raising our daughter to be a kind, patient, and considerate type A person takes a lot of kindness, patience, and consideration. I have to emulate what I want our daughter to be in this world. If I want her to listen to others and their ideas, I need to listen to her and show respect for her ideas. If I want her to be a good sport when losing, I need to be gracious when she wins. In short, to raise a good person, you have to be a good person.
I love how raising her has changed me as an individual, and I feel so blessed to have my smart, witty, stubborn, creative, and independent daughter.